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INTRODUCTION

Its going to be four years very soon from the day when I was able to see my long lived dream in my hands: "My SON - JASHAN". My Jashan-e-bahaar is getting 4 years old and the days are becoming past when I used to be on toes all the time, following my kid, instructing him of NOT to do anything (which ofcourse was of no use). So now as I am getting my time back I wonder how my 4 years have gone. Life was never that fast and am sure all Mommies who  are in my state would definately agree on this.

Few days before an incident took place that made me feel how active my kid is growing. It was a Q/A (I asked a question and got a very surprisingly shocked answer from Jashan). More accidently or should say more conveniently my mind just erased what happened few mins ago and I tried hard and hard but the feel that something very amusing happened made be go CraZy.

Yesterday again another interesting moment came by and The thought that I will be losing in from my memory made me write it down right way with the title "Moment of Day with Jashan".

So This is how the concept of writing this blog arrived. I will be scribbling all those funny, innocent , cheerfull, Intelligent moments of my Kid in this blog whenever it arrives and let me tell you, 'Ab bachoon ko bacha samjhna, bachpana hai' ;-)

PS: Comments/ incidents/ all such fond memories are most welcome. 

MAIN COURSE

Here I Go with the first one :

16- FEB -2012, Time : 9:15 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months

It was time to sleep. So I asked Jashan to go in the bathroom and brush his teeth. As usual "Mumma, I don't wanna sleep, That is not fair , yeh cheating hai ...."  blah blah emotional black mails were done by Jashan and me trying to be a strict mom was adamant to him to Brush. He went in the bathroom, started making faces seeing himself in the mirror and realised himself wearing his shirt say "My Dad can fix anything.." Suddenly he jumped out of the stool and came out of bathroom saying "Mumma, ap mere liye 'Ja--e--shan can fix anything wali shirt la dena' " This was My first surprise followed by the other when I said OK. He came close to me, rested his cheek on mine and said in most soft and low voice "you 're cho chweet mumma..." And That was the moment of my day seeing his glittering eyes , broad smile and knowing the fact "ki hum dono ek dusre ko buddu bana rahe hai ... "  :-)

15- FEB -2012, Time : 5:55 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months

We were in park and Jashan had made some new friends . It was time to leave, The Tough time to make your kid understand that Its time to leave, be happy and say Bye to your friends. So to make the ending smooth we asked kids to sing one rhyme turn by turn and say bye to your friends. Henceforth, there were rounds of rhymes, each kid showing off HIS/HER talent. Last round, Jashan's last rhyme starting with some "Three piglet..." and the rhyme was nearly 12 lines big. I, super excited said to the mommy sitting next to me that I have never heard of this rhyme before and am pleased to know that Jashan knows such big rhymes now. She said, "your kid is pretty clever, only first four lines were correct. Rest his own made." BINGO !! I was super happy knowing my kid can build rhyme, that too in English and with such neat endings.  ' Abhi se hee bete ne Maa ko buddu bana shuru kar diya hai ...' Keep going my Son.

22- FEB -2012, Time : 3:55 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months
The biggest task for a Mommy is to make your kid eat. But is not anymore for me now. There was a smooth transition from me running behind my kid to make him eat, to the time where my kid is scolding me of not giving him the meal on time. Today is one of the day when Jashan is back from school and I being lazy today was not ready with his lunch. So the quickest recipe I could think of was Khichdi. In the mean time, Jashan found the box of biscuits and we both had a fight where I am asking him to eat after the lunch but Jashan wants it right now. Jashan shouted on top of his voice saying "Mumma, I want to eat Palak Ji    biscuit". I couldn't hold my laugh and passed on one biscuit saying "its Parle-G and not Palak Ji.." . Later, Khichdi was ready but still hot. And when you are hungry you can't wait for few seconds also. Same was Jashan's state. Finally he got his first scoop of khichdi. His reaction : "Good job Mumma, I am proud of you " and gave me a kiss. 
Felt blessed again.

28- FEB -2012, Time : 8:00 am, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months
Today Jashan picked up the milk packets from outside and was keeping it on the kitchen shelf. He stared at the packets for few seconds and then explained me "Mumma, koi cow se milk le kar inn packets mein daal deta hai aur fir humare door par rakh deta hai, taki mein doodo pi sako". Relating his learning with the things happening around him.

9- Mar -2012, Time : 3:35 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months
Jashan had its first Auto ricksaw drive yesterday. We were coming back from a mall and took an Auto ricksaw to drive back home. Jashan as usual super excited about the drive, sat at the corner and had a tight grab on the handles. As the ricksaw picked up some speed, Jashan felt a tight blow of air on his face. With a huge smile he said "Momma, Aeroplane is not the fastest vehicle, Auto ricksaw is the fastest vehicle momma, Am I clear". My reply "yes betu ;-) " Ummmuaah !

12- Mar -2012, Time : 7:25 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months

Learning comes with lots of doubts. As Jashan spends most of his time with me, so when he started talking (in Hindi) he was getting confused in using gender specific sentences like instead of saying 'mein aata hoon, jata hoon, soota hoon', used to say 'mein aati hoon, mein jati hoon ...etc'. So to correct him, I explained him that boys says 'aaa' like 'jata hoon, peeta hoon, soota hoon etc' and girls use 'eeii' like 'jati hoon, peeti hoon, sooti hoon...'. He made this as a language rule. Now after a 2 years of learning, few days back he listened one song where the hero is singing " tu meri zindagi hai" . Now the immediate ques was " Why he is saying 'gii' and not 'gaa'? He is a boy na ?" His question created a question mark on my face :-) 

15- Mar-2012, Time : 5:55 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 10 months
One fine day, I bought a new game for Jashan where we need to pick fishes (having magnets on their mouths tip) from the pond. So we started playing the game with a minute's timer. In the first round I picked up 8 and Jashan only 5. Since he could not bear to be a loser, in the second round he asked me to start when he says so and using all his brain he first picked up 3 fishes, kept aside and then asked me to start. Lesson learnt : If i can't win then let Momma also not win ;-)


19- Mar -2012, Time : 1:10 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 11 months
Today we again had one of the dancing class and this time Jashan was choreographing the dance steps. He has recently joined Kungfu classes (just 3 classes old) and its just amazing seeing him using his learning in his dance. Jashan was making me do all those warm up exercises in the dance followed by the statement "Momma, baatein kum, dance zada"...Glad to see that my son is inheriting my love for dance. Bravo !

30- Mar -2012, Time : 8:30 am, Location : Mumbai, Age : 3 years 11 months

Another strange experience and a learning with no learning. Today is Jashan's last day at school of his Nursery session. Hence I was keen in sending him to school, though both of us didnt want to get out of the bed. But somehow I managed and then was trying Jashan to wake him up from his sweet dreamland. Today's newspaper had a full page ad of a bike with a Spaceman standing in between to brief something to the readers. And as Jashan is fond of Robots these days, so to catch his attention I said "See Jashan there is a Robot, On the newspaper". The trick worked and Jashan woke up looking at the ad and in return he said "Mumma, its not a Robot, its a spaceman. Aapne mujhe jhooth bola..." I again in the surprised mode of the fact that Jashan can differentiate between a robot and a spaceman explained him that I didn't lied. Its just that I was incorrect about the spaceman. The whole thing followed a story created by Jashan, about the spaceman landing, how and why he came and is standing between the bikes :-) .

Few days back I had an incident where I was shouting on Jashan to cross the road, and when he was not reacting on it I holded him tight and made him cross it. The moment we crossed and I asked him why he was not doing so, he just said "OK, this is cross the road.." That was a second when I felt so bad about my behavior where my kid didn't understand what I was saying and I wanted him to follow my instructions.

These are such odd situations where we should not Overestimate our kids as we think our kids do understands everything and actually they may not as in my case of 'Crossing the road'. Also not to underestimate the kids as they might know what you think they may not as in case of the 'Robot- spaceman incident'.  

23- May -2012, Time : 6:30 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 1 month
Jashan was playing in park as usual. A dark complexioned toddler came in park near him. Jashan pampered him and said to me "Mumma, baby black color ka kyun hai. usko nayi nayi (needs to take bath) karna padega. fir woh clean ho jayega". I was speechless for a moment and simply confused on how to explain that our skin color is not by choice and should actually not be a matter of concern. Again a question mark on my face with his statement.

24- May -2012, Time : 9:30 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 1 month
Today's, Jashan's way of seeking attention: I was totally engrossed in watching my TV soap when Jashan was trying hard to get my attention. He was singing, dancing and don't know what else he was doing till when all of a sudden I found my cheeks pulled by him and he said "Oh! my lovely girl, sweety sweety sweety tera pyar chahida..." I tell you my kid is much much cuter than I thought of. :-)

9- Oct -2012, Time : 4:08 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 6 month

My kid has moved to his next milestone of learning phonics and repeating abc is of no more interest to him. But it's actually a challenge to answer his questions now. S sounds sss. He asked me to draw circle on his doodle pro and ordered me to write it's spelling also. But before I reached the writing part, he himself tried finding out the first word and reached to the conclusion that it should start with S . I said no it starts with C . C sound k..kk mumma, you're wrong and I am right. I can't convince him and asked him to cross check with his teacher.

Reality check : Our kids have more trust on their teachers than their parents. We were like that and so are our kids.

4- Nov -2012, Time : 9:00 am, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 7 month

Jashan cleared his first belt in Kung fu and also brought Best Performer award trophy. We missed his exam along with kids whom he learnt Kung fu as we were travelling that time. So went to some other school where it was organised again for that school's kids. All new faces for Jashan. We left him with those kids and waited outside. When it was over, one by one kids were coming out and after few kids I saw a glimpse of Jashan. His eyes were looking for us and couldn't wait to make us see his trophy. Jashan was extremely happy, and above him was me. Jash was all settled once he kept his trophy, next to his Dad's in the show case but for me, I enjoyed the proud for next 2-3 days, by posting his pics on facebook, then waiting for the comments and lastly by replying to those. It seems I would always be much more excited than Jash for all his achievements all over the life where as I know he will start making fun of my gestures very soon.

12- Nov -2012, Time : 7:30 pm, Location : Bhopal, Age : 4 years 7 month

Jashan's 2nd Diwali with crackers. Jashan was resistant of not burning crackles till he saw them. He burnt many crackers, all on his own. His dad was getting more protected by guiding him all the time though Jashan was giving it a damm. We went to gurudwara after burning few at home and there also, he wanting to burn with his friends. Very soon we realised that Jashan is becoming over confident and as over confidence brings carelessness, the same happened with him. A bit of cracker burn went into his eye and he yelled like anything. Thank goddness, Chakshu didn't panic, as he himself has experienced this many a times but my heart had few extra beats till Jashan settled down. 

Jashan had his learning but horrified me totally. I felt so helpless and bad of why mothers go through such pain when their kids suffer even a pinch of any physical pain.

21- Dec -2012, Time : 8:30 am, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 8 month

We have enrolled Jashan for Sr.Kg, though he is eligible for Jr. I dont know if that was a right decision or not but like any other parent, think that he is smarter than others.

Today was Jashan's annual sports day. He had this white dress code and the event, would say was nicely organised in BMC ground. I and Jashan, reached there on time. This time, we as parents want Jashan to know that winning is important. So have said him quite a times that he should come back as a winner. As I left Jashan with his classmates, he became care free, no worries, no tension, only enjoyment. He lost all the three races but as a participant gave all his 100 %. I felt a bit low but was ok with the fact that my kid is like that. He still has to understand when and how to focus on winning. Nonetheless I was happy with the experience he has gone through till the moment when he hugged me and  broke into tears.

He was not able to take the prize distribution ceremony where his fellow mates were getting certificates and medals, the way they were showing him off and he was empty handed.

He said "Mumma, mam has done cheating with me, see she wrote 2 on my hand and then rubbed it. I did win the race". I could totally understand. It was his teacher's mistake of writing 2 on his hand and then crossing it. It may not be done intentionally but this small mistake/confusion in deciding the winners , have made a kid feel so much disappointed. Its actually tough to understand this as a third person but when you become a parent and see your kid going through such negativities you do feel, why and how that teacher can be so irresponsible. 

Anyhow, the whole incident made Jashan realise the state of being a loser and why its important to win.

It took me long time to stop him to cry. It was indeed a very touching and emotionally sad moment for me.

24- Dec -2012, Time : 8:00 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 8 month

I and Jashan decorated our first Xmas tree today. In Bold, it was my first Xmas tree also. I always have a fantasy of it and today my kid helped me fulfilling it. Jashan was as usual super excited about it and after we finished , he sang Jingle Bells and danced on the same. 

May Santa Clause bless him with tons of happiness and his mesmerizing smile remains on his face forever.

31- Dec -2012, Time : 8:00 pm, Location : Mumbai, Age : 4 years 8 month
We were however late in bringing his Xmas gift which supposedly Santa should have brought for him. When 25th arrived Jashan asked me if Santa did come and bring his gift. So we made a story that Santa might have gone tired and so was not able to bring gift for him and in such cases Santa comes on New year eves and distribute gifts to those whom he miss.

On New year, Chakshu brought the gift and kept it outside the door. Meanwhile I was making Jashan give a surprise to his dad when he will be back from his office. Chakshu rang the bell and hide himself so that Jash believes that Santa has brought the gift. He opened the door and saw the gift. It was THE expression where Jashan couldn't control his excitement on receiving the gift, that too from Santa. After 5 mins, Chakshu again rang the bell and this time Jashan was in no mood to open the door. He somehow did on my insistence but forgot all about giving hug to his dad, the surprise he prepared for him. He was just so much thrilled in showing his gift. On the other side of the story, the gift was a mere football. But the excitement all over was that Santa kept it for him.
My parents never did such acts to pamper us, so I always had this wish that I will definitely pamper my kids and I am glad I am doing all this.